6 Awkward New Things You Deal With When Losing Weight

Losing weight is great, especially when you’ve been wishing to do for most of your life and you’ve finally done it! The journey of weight loss and better health is an amazing one to travel, but it doesn’t mean that there aren’t a few bumps along the road. Many of the bumps aren’t so much from the weight loss itself, but from the emotional ups and downs that many people don’t anticipate. Those emotional “downs” aren’t something that we expect to deal with along the weight-loss journey; our assumption is that successful weight loss equals 100 percent pure pleasure… which I found is not so true.

Below are a few of the emotional issues that I dealt with while I was losing my weight:

  1. Analysis of everything you do. No matter where I was or what I was doing, people wanted to know exactly “why” I was doing it. If they saw me at the grocery store, they would examine the cart’s contents and ask why I selected each item. If I was walking, a neighbor would often stop me to ask how far and how fast she had to walk to lose as much weight as me. While dining at a restaurant with relatives, I’d be asked about why I was eating “that,” since it wasn’t what they considered a low calorie item. I can’t even tell you how many comments I get when at a potluck, wedding, birthday party, baby or wedding shower, even funerals about what I eat. Does this bother me? Every single time.
  2. Having to accept snide comments. Boy, did I ever get these often. The list is endless but a couple that come to mind are: “Wow, look how much smaller you are! The last time I saw you, you were this wide!” (As they hold their arms out as extended as they can and demonstrate the width of my backside.) Umm… thanks, I guess. Another one: “You always had such a pretty face. I always told myself that if Jodi lost a ton of weight she would be attractive.” Oh, OK, so I have always been unattractive? Thanks for the boost. Learning to simply smile and not comment on their remarks is the best solution here.
  3. Seeking the approval of others. I’ve finally learned that I don’t need the approval of anyone; it took me a long time to get that. You are becoming healthier, losing your weight FOR YOU and nobody needs to approve your decision. Unfortunately, you’ll encounter some jealousy, hear unpleasant comments and find out who your true friends are (and aren’t). Remember to stay proud of all that you’ve accomplished and avoid any negativity that comes from mouths of others. In their heart, they just wish to be as awesome as you — some just have trouble actually saying it.
  4. Arrogance. Everyone was so happy when they noticed that I was losing weight. Friends told me how much I deserved it since I had struggled all my life, and they constantly reminded me that they were very proud of me. It was absolutely wonderful to hear all these lovely comments, but after listening to them so often, I became used to them. Soon people didn’t want to hear about any of my other accomplishments which I often wanted to share. If I shared them with pride, I’d receive comments like “Yes, you have it all.” That’s not so enjoyable to hear.
  5. Attraction attention that you aren’t used to. Yes, it does happen: You will get plenty of looks, including a few raised eyebrows and smiling faces, from people who notice your new body. I enjoyed the fact that negative words didn’t go along with the looks I received like they did for 25 years. My self-esteem surely went up and I liked the extra attention. I won’t say that everyone in my family enjoyed it as much as I did; yes, many “ups and downs” here too. You will survive it, though; I have.
  6. Artificial concern. This came from the people I least expected. “Oh Jodi, you’re losing weight much too quickly. Are you sure you’re not sick?” Or, “Your eyes look dark, are you certain you’re eating right?” And the one that gets me the most: “Don’t you think you should stop now? You’re looking much thinner than I am used to you looking, it’s not good.” That comment was said before I lost even 100 pounds and was still considered extremely obese. Jealousy does set in quite often. Just remember not to become too upset with these individuals… you were probably there once yourself, right? (Be honest.) Thank them for being concerned and reassure them that you are just fine!

If you’ve lost a lot of weight, how was it for you? Did you experience these issues as well?

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  1. I lost over 70 pounds and work at a small town drug store. Customers are driving me NUTS! I have to explain 20 times a day how I did it and some look at me like I have 2 heads. Then I’ve had to deal with “Are you sick”, and I’m like do I look sick? The attention is nice but can be overwhelming. I guess I don’t realize how different I look, I’ve been losing it for over a year now.

    1. Amanda,

      First I would like to congratulate you on your 70 pound weight loss – wonderful!

      I completely understand your aggravation; yes, it does become a bit overwhelming having to explain how you lost your weight numerous times a day. Yet if you look at it from another point of view: most likely you are MOTIVATING others to do what you have done by explaining how you were so successful. It does inspire others when you share your weight-loss success story; you are most likely allowing others to realize that they can do what you have done … that is awesome!

      The question “Are you sick?” seems to be a common concern with a substantial weight loss, it’s not necessarily that you appear sick, but people want to inquire since they care about you.

      Like you mentioned, the attention is nice and if people did NOT notice your weight loss you may wonder “why?” Keep up the great work and remember that you are HEALTHIER too … that is something to celebrate daily, and by the sounds of it, you are!

      Stay in touch and thank you for visiting!

      Jodi

  2. I’ve lost 23 pounds in about nine months. I get looks from Neighbors and strangers, all the guys want to talk to me. It’s interesting how much more people notice you when you’ve lost weight, honestly kind of offends me, almost to say I wasn’t good enough to notice while being obese.

    Since food is a social experience I’ve also been watching what I eat a lot more and well I guess you lose a few friends when you don’t want to eat at Applebee’s or talk a lot more about nutrition. It’s intresting to say the least. But I do like the way I’m more in shape and working out gives me an outlet and extra alone time.

  3. omg – this article is exactly what I went through 15yrs ago when I lost almost 40lbs. I have since gained it back, but finally on track again and have lost over 10lbs so far. I think what kept me from losing weight again was partly due to how other people reacted. Sounds silly, but I have some social anxiety and I don’t like attention. When I was losing weight people would comment on my body EVERY day. And I didn’t wear tight clothing. This time around I’m trying to mentally prepare myself and not let it detract me. I really want to do this for myself and no one else. I want to FEEL better. I just had someone this morning say to me, “looks like you’re losing weight”. I just commented, “swimsuit season is right around the corner!” Would love some extra tips on how to deal with these as more and more come my way. Thanks!

  4. This article hits every situation I have went through over the past year after losing weight. The constant asking if I’m sick and back handed comments like, “you look great today, isn’t it nice to be able to wear nice clothes that fit you now, there is nothing left to you you’re like half the person you were before or my favourite one, “it will only be a matter of time now for you to find a boyfriend.” The comments actually really get to me and sometimes I wish I never had lost the weight because the ups and downs associated with weight loss and sometimes too much. How do people response to these back handed comments and no let them effect you emotionally?

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