Unfortunately, for over twenty years I made that familiar negative claim: “I can’t do it.” I’m sure many of you reading this can relate.
I know what it feels like to be overwhelmed, when a goal is almost to the point of impossible. This doesn’t only pertain to weight loss, but many other goals too. There was a time when I didn’t feel like we could save enough money for a down payment on our first home, but we made the decision to focus on that goal and we did it. There was also a time when the thought of being a stay-at-home mom, living on only one income, was totally impossible, but I made it my goal, told myself I could do it, and did it! I’ve never been a smoker, but my father smoked for many years. When we were little, my sister and I begged him to stop, but he said it was just too difficult. We began to believe the same as he did, it was impossible. Then he had a health scare which gave him some things to really think about. He made a goal for himself and claimed that he would stop smoking, and he did. He hasn’t had a cigarette since my children were born.
Each one of these goals were difficult but were made possible by believing that they would happen. If these goals were set, but I continuously claimed that they just couldn’t come true then they wouldn’t have. If you feel you NEVER WILL, then YOU WON’T. Those are words worth repeating:
If you feel you NEVER WILL then YOU WON’T.
And that’s how I felt for all those years when I was struggling with my weight. I may have told others I was on a diet and I was “going to do it this time!” but I always felt like I just wasn’t meant to be thin, I was forever going to be the fat girl. This was a thought that I repeated to myself over and over. And so I remained the fat girl.
But I remembered how I felt when I knew we wanted to buy our first home. I didn’t tell myself “you can’t do this, saving thousands of dollars is impossible.” I did what the majority of us do when we want to reach a goal like thisÃ¢â?¬Â¦make the claim that “I will do this because I want to own a home” keeping that goal as a main focus. When we eventually achieve this goal, we acknowledge it wasn’t always easy but well worth the effort.
In January 2001, I believed that my weight loss goal could also be achieved. No more feeling as though it was impossible no more feeling as though it will never happen NO MORE NEGATIVE THOUGHTS. They only make us sad and upset with ourselves anyway. Is that really, truly how you want to feel each day? I don’t think so.
Just like any other goal in your life that you have achieved, you can achieve this one, too! But remember, you have to believe it! Make the claim that you WILL DO THIS, stay positive, and focus on this goal! Let me know your results and hopefully we can celebrate our goal “anniversaries” together. I’m no different than youÃ¢â?¬Â¦if I can, you can!